After breaking up with somebody you loved, the shock can be overwhelming and it’s normal to work through the loss. There’s going to be pain, longing and maybe even depression. But most experts advocate taking it slow; some say that for every year you were together, you should wait one month before dating again. And yet just like falling in love can feel irrational and illogical at times, so can ending the relationship … causing some people to do crazy things like immediately join online dating sites, but for what reason?
Sadly, some people will start dating—or at least put up a profile on a dating site—with the hopes that her ex will find out about it. Revenge seems like a great idea at the time in the heat of the moment but it will never do any good. Also, revenge by online dating sites will come across immature like “Nah-nah, I don’t need you, I have somebody else”.
Clearly, this isn’t a healthy approach and will probably just end up with more hurt feelings all around, even for the dater. But more than that, it proves that the person jumping into the dating pool is not over the former partner, no matter how much she protests to the contrary. Instead, a few days should be given to calm down so that the actions post-breakup are mature and classy. Forget revenge, take the high road.