Finding The Unexpected
It had been months since they first got together and things seemed to be going really well between the two of them. As far as he was concerned, they were the happiest they had ever been.
But when he entered the house that night, he could feel that something was up. He walked down the hall as he feared for the worst. When he opened the bedroom door, he found something he never could have expected.
What I Need
Cayde was an ordinary guy living in Houston, Texas. Like many people at twenty-two, he was almost clearing college and figuring his way around adult life.
For Cayde, the goal was to have a stable job, a sustainable apartment, a car, and a great relationship. So far, he’d landed the first three. The last one proved to be challenging until he met Barbra.
A Perfect Life
For Cayde, Barbra was all he’d ever wanted in a girlfriend. She was funny, intelligent, and resourceful. She also looked like she belonged in a magazine.
The two met at the movies, and Cayde knew Barbra was the one. After a few dates and a ton of conversation, the two started living together. Cayde’s dream came true, but it would soon become a nightmare.
Trouble started a few weeks after Cayde and Barbra moved in together. Cayde worked throughout the day and spent most nights at school. Although Barbra assured him she understood, he could see the pain and loneliness in her eyes.
Cayde tried all he could to make up for his absence. He even moved around some of his classes to be available on some nights. But it wasn’t enough.
The Downward Spiral
Cayde started noticing little things about Barbra that told him trouble was brewing in paradise. She wouldn’t embrace him the way she used to when he came home in the morning. She’d object to things she used to love doing with him.
He didn’t want to believe she was falling out of love with him, but that night well convinced him.
It’s Coming Back
The week that changed everything started as the others did, with a dejected Cayde. But that morning, Barbra was suddenly smiling. She was all over him, as chirpy as she’d once been.
Barbra’s change in behavior caught Cayde off guard. But he was thankful that she was lively again. That day, he couldn’t think straight at work and spent his eight hours texting her. Their old life was slowly returning to them.
Making It Up To Her
That night, Cayde sat through his classes, praying they would breeze through as his hours at work had. He was still talking to Barbra, who’d promised him a homecooked meal and their favorite movie as soon as he got home.
Half the classes were already over. But although the night started well, it wouldn’t turn out as Cayde projected.
Cayde’s lecturer called in a random assessment test. He’d requested all the students to turn off their phones. Knowing that such tests took two to three hours, Cayde called Barbra to apologize.
Although Barbra told him it was alright, he knew he’d broken her heart. He raced home as soon as he cleared his test. What he found made his lips part as tears flooded his eyes.
He Comes Home
Cayde pushed his front door open, finding Barba asleep on the couch. She’d set the table with his favorite meal, which was cold now and had watched his favorite movie alone.
Cayde’s heart broke again that night. He knew he wasn’t doing right by his girlfriend and wondered how much hurt she’d take before leaving him. Pain shot through him at the thought, and he spent the night awake next to Barbra.
Ten Steps Back
When Barbra woke up in the morning, she assured him everything was fine. But the way she acted ran contrary to her words. Cayde tried to explain himself, but she stared at him blankly.
Cayde reached out to one of his close friends for advice, and after the conversation, decided to do something he hoped would save his relationship.
Cayde requested a few hours at work but with more workload to compensate. He also moved some of his classes to earlier in the day to more nights with Barbra.
The relationship started thawing again. For the first time in weeks, Cayde saw Barbra genuinely smile. The beauty and wit she’d once embodied came back full force. But he didn’t know the end was near.
An Early Night
That Friday night, Cayde had expected to spend the night at school since he was clearing his mid-terms. But the lecturer rescheduled at the last minute, giving him a free night to spend with Babra.
Cayde rushed home, looking to surprise her. But when he opened the door and entered the house, something in his gut just felt wrong.
Cayde walked into the house and called for Barbara, but there was no reply. Perhaps she was at the store. She did tend to do the weekly grocery shopping on a Friday.
But then he noticed her handbag and keys on the table – and her coat on the floor. “Aww,” thought Cayde. “She’s exhausted too. She must have gone upstairs for a nap.”
One of the things Cayde loved about Barbara was the cute way she snored when she was tired, usually after she’d had a few glasses of wine.
But the heavy breathing coming from the bedroom was louder than usual, so he must have been right – she’d had a long day too. He opened the bedroom door and immediately took a step back.
She Breaks His Heart
Barbra lay in their bed, snoring. Next to her was a man Cayde had never seen before. Cayde’s lungs clenched tightly, squeezing all the air out.
He took another step back. He wanted to throw up. As anger, bitterness, and adrenaline welled up inside him, he saw himself rushing into the room to fight.
A Terrible Surprise
He’d just walked into his bedroom thinking he was about spend some quality time with Barbara after a hard day’s work, but he found something else entirely.
Then he thought about how Barbara’s behavior had changed lately. How long had this been going on? He walked over to the bed and stood over them both.
Cayde felt a sudden urge for revenge. He thought about packing up all of Barbara’s things and throwing them on the curb… perhaps setting them on fire.
He wanted to wake the guy up and call him outside for a fight. But he didn’t want to be the one who had to pay for this. Besides, he was cooking up a much better plan.
Cayde knew that getting emotional wasn’t going to change anything. What was done was done – there was no going back.
So he took a deep breath and felt a strange sense of calm wash over him. He collected his thoughts, shook off his anger and disappointment, and handled the devastating moment like a total boss.
Surveying The Scene
Now that Cayde was calm, he looked at the scene but felt removed from it all. Like a forensic detective, he took stock of the two wine glasses on the nightstand – one smeared with coral lipstick – and the clothes strewn on the floor.
The strangest part was that Barbara and her “friend” were so deeply asleep that they had no idea he was even there. He boldly walked around the sleeping couple and whipped out his phone.
The Bigger Man
“There’s no need to bash someone when they’re down,” Cayde said, referring to his restraint in attacking Barbara’s lover. “Being the better person is always the best way.”
But some friends and family would disagree that the way Cayde chose to handle the situation was indeed the most palatable, especially considering how public and humiliating the revenge he was about to serve was.
Cayde took photos of Barbra and her friend and uploaded them to Facebook. “When you come home to another man in your bed with the one you loved!” wrote Cayde in the caption of the selfie he shared next to Barbara and the stranger in his bed.
He tapped Barbra’s shoulder to wake her up, but it was no use. “She was drunk as a skunk and passed out,” he wrote on Facebook.
Seeing The Humor
Cayde knew that if he didn’t laugh, he’d cry. So he tried to inject some humor into the situation. “I was gonna ask if I was gonna have to sleep in the spare bedroom and what kinda breakfast the dude liked lmao,” he wrote.
Cayde added in the comments: “Good men deserve good women.” But not everyone thought his response was so funny.
Name And Shame
Some people took issue with the way Cayde had shared his girlfriend’s indiscretion. “Taking pictures and blasting them on the web does not make you a better man, offered one disgruntled commenter, who thought Cayde shouldn’t have posted the candid snaps.
“Calmly walking away and just accepting what happened and not seeking revenge, makes you a better man,” she added.
While many were astounded at Cayde’s cool, calm and collected response to discovering what can only be one of the worst things about your partner, naming and shaming someone online probably isn’t right either.
But Cayde had never intended for his sly selfie to go so wildly viral. Soon, his photos had been spread all over every social media platform.
“Right or wrong? Not sure. But the guy should take care if she decides to sue the local regulations on posting images of others without their consent and related laws will become important,” one Redit user wrote.
“The dude didn’t cheat but he did destroy a boundary of respect towards another male. Which is why I support taking the selfie and then taking another one after I beat him to a pulp,” another user argued.
Too Open On Social Media?
One Reddit user asked readers a pointed question that points to a bigger problem in society: “Have we become too open with our lives in regards to social media? Should Cayde have dealt with this in a more private way?”
The most upvoted reply was: “I think it’s up to him how he deals with it. I think it’s a little classless, but I wouldn’t expect someone to be in their right mind in this situation.” But others disagreed.
Other users thought Cayde was being immature. “I wouldn’t say it’s so much a case of being open, people are self-obsessed and want to broadcast every aspect of their lives to others,” another Reddit user wrote.
“I’m not sure that this guy’s motivation was, but it strikes me as immature and stupid to publicize something that should be a private matter.”
At the end of the day, most people supported the decision to call Barbara out, and Cayde appreciated the ones who were there for him. “Yesterday I thought my world fell apart. I was heartbroken to ever witness anything like that,” he wrote.
“I’m sure one day you will find someone who will think the world of you!” one supportive Facebook user said. But, in the end, Cayde decided to do what he thought was the right thing.
A Brighter Tomorrow
Cayde pulled the photos from Facebook. He knew his relationship with Barbra was over, and although it stung to admit it, he was glad. He’d gone out of his way to try and make it work. He wished she would’ve done the same.
Although the photos were no longer on Facebook, people worldwide already saw them. They sympathized with Cayde, commending him for walking away from such a dire situation.
What Would You Do?
Cayde thanked the thousands of people who praised his decision not to fight and instead get his revenge in a peaceful way.
But, as we know, a vocal minority disagreed with his approach and insisted that online shaming is never okay. But could you have maintained your cool like that if you walked in on your other half cheating? What would you have done?